Sunday, October 23, 2016

Nauvoo

How many people get to stand on the porch of the (reconstructed) cabin that belonged to their 4th-great grandparents?








Or find a quote from an ancestor's journal being used as a sign marker along the historic "Trail of Hope"?


(One of the sign markers lining the street where thousands of Nauvoo residents traveled as they left Nauvoo in February 1846, quote by my 4th-great grandmother. They had to cross the Mississippi river and head west to escape mob persecution)


How many people get to discover the grave site where their 4th-great grandmother's two small children are buried--and then read her amazing story about how she became so confident in their well-being after death that she didn't shed a tear at their passing?


 (Gravesite of Sarah Elizabeth Washburn and her brother, Jonathan E. Washburn, in the Old Nauvoo Cemetary. They were children of Adam's 4th-great grandparents.)



These experiences were some of the highlights of our trip to Nauvoo, Illinois last weekend. It was my third time visiting the historic town and the first time our kids can remember going. We were hoping it would be a trip that would help them connect with their ancestors, strengthen their faith, and have fun as a family. I think we accomplished all three!


(Replica of one of the sunstones that adorned the origional Nauvoo Temple. The Church members in Nauvoo were asked to give 1 out of 10 days to work on the temple construction. The temple has since been reconstructed and is now a dedicated, working LDS temple. It is gorgeous!)

We belong to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and it's a big part of our lives. (Okay, so that's probably an understatement. It's basically who we are. It's a VERY big part of our lives.) The Church was restored in 1830 and its members grew quickly. Now Church membership is in the realm of 16 million worldwide! Nauvoo is important because the growing body of church members spent six years there (1839-1846), building a city and a beautiful temple. By 1844, Nauvoo's population had risen to 12,000, rivaling the size of Chicago!

If you want a quick and fun overview of Church history, check out this video. (Takes me back to my old high school seminary days!)

But back to Nauvoo. By 1846, prejudice and suspicion led to mobbings and the government mandated a mass exodus of Mormons from the state of Illinois. Church  members then began a difficult journey west by covered wagon or handcart. A good handful of  my direct ancestors were part of that exodus. I was touched to read stories of their perseverance and faith. They were such good, kindly people! Why did they have to be so mistreated? I think I understand now why our Church has recently encouraged its members to extend aid to refugees... It is part of our own history.

During the last hour of our drive to Nauvoo, I pulled out the big binder my mom has filled with family history "pioneer" stories. I couldn't help but cry as I read aloud the history of my 5th-great grandmother, Ann Jewell Rowley. She joined the church In England, along with her husband and seven children. Her husband soon passed away, and she and the children worked for seven years before they had saved enough to sail to America and join the saints out west. They joined the Willie Handcart Company--a company infamous for the late start they got and the consequent perilous journey they endured. Here are some excerpts from Ann's account of her journey:

"Many Saints were migrating to Zion, which had been established in what is now known as 'Utah.' So anxious were we all to join the Saints, that we were willing to accept any kind of transportation, to make the trip. Just at this time, the 'Handcart Method' had been adopted and we were grateful for even this mode of transportation to travel... everything that even hinted of being a luxury, must be eliminated. There were many keepsakes that I wanted to take, but couldn't. But there was one thing I didn't consider a luxury and that was my feather-bed. I had hung onto that beloved item from the time of the auction in England and now clearly there was no room for it. It wouldn't be bad to walk 1,300 miles if one had a feather-bed to sleep on at night, but no matter how I folded it, it was too bulky. But a feather-bed is a feather-bed, and when it came to choosing between Zion and a feather-bed, well it was a little too late to turn my back on Zion, so I ripped it open and emptied the feathers on the ground and used the tic to cover the supplies on the handcart. We left Iowa City under the direction of Captain James C. Willie and Millen Atwood...

"We started out in great spirits, grateful at last that we were on the last lap of our journey..." Soon the first misfortune hit the company: a large herd of buffalo stampeded through the camp and 30 of their best oxen were lost. Much of the food supplies had to be transferred from the ox-carts onto the handcarts, causing many to break down, for they weren't designed to carry such a load."

Mary continues, "It hurt me to see my children go hungry. I watched as they cut the loose rawhide from the cart wheels, roast off the hair and chew the hide. There came a time , when there seemed to be no food at all. Some of the men left to hunt buffalo. Night was coming and there was no food for the evening meal. I asked God's help as I always did. I got on my knees, remembering two hard sea biscuits that were still in my trunk. They had been left over from the sea voyage. They were not large, and were so hard they couldn't be broken. Surely. that was not enough to feed 8 people, but 5 loaves and 2 fishes were not enough to feed 5,000 people either, but through a miracle, Jesus had done it. So, with God's help, nothing is impossible. I found the biscuits and put them in a dutch oven and covered them with water and asked for God's blessing. Then I put the lid on the pan and set it on the coals. When I took off the lid a little later, I found the pan filled with food. I kneeled with my family and thanked God for his goodness. That night my family had sufficient food. The men returned with buffalo meat, and what wasn't eaten right away by the Saints, was dried into jerky."

"The weather became cooler and at times the company was delayed because of the constant repair of the handcarts. We encountered many storms on the way and the way seemed long indeed. The last time we crossed the Platte River, Samuel's clothes were soaked. by the time he got to camp it was sundown and his clothes were frozen so stiff he could barely move. I wrapped a blanket around him and he stood by the fire, while I dried his clothing. Samuel celebrated his 14th birthday somewhere in the vicinity of Chimney Rock. He celebrated by pulling the handcart with John all day.  From here on, the country became hilly and hard to travel. The company dragged on. Provisions were getting lower and the people weaker day by day. Anything that has no immediate use, was discarded on the way. I watched with alarm, my stepdaughter Eliza, grow weaker each day. She was never very strong. I had always devoted a lot of love and care to her, but she passed away one day and was buried off to the side of the trail. Her long journey was at an end, but ours had a long way yet to go.

"John being the oldest boy, had born the brunt of the hard work. I was grateful for my faith in God, for it was only through this faith, that I was able to carry on at all. I confess, it seemed at times, the Lord had deserted us. I watched John, so cold, drowsy and sick, want to lie down in his tracks, never to rise again. I had to stand helplessly while Captain Willie whipped him, to make him go on. Gladly, I would have taken the whipping myself. In traveling at night, in the frost of that altitude, Thomas' right hand froze while he was pushing on the back on the cart and when we stopped at night and his hand got warm, it swelled up, as Samuel said, 'like a toad.' John could finally go no farther and I felt my heart would break as I saw him laying beside the trail, waiting for the sick wagon. By the time he was picked up, his body was frozen in two places. That night, 12 people died and the next morning, 3 people joined them.

"I always thought, I shall be the happiest person, if I could reach Zion, with all my children alive. However, the Lord had not deserted us and I was ashamed for thinking for a moment, he had. Hope came to us, when the company of Apostle Franklin G. Richards overtook us and, seeing our plight, hurried with as much speed as possible, to Salt Lake City, to get help for us. When the rescue party found us, we had been in camp 3 days and had been without food for 48 hours. There was 18 inches of snow on the ground. We were very grateful for the provisions they brought. It was good to see my family eat again. It was Cyrus W. Wheelcock of the Dan Jones party that met us with the provisions and he could not hold back the tears, when he saw the condition of our company."

Ann and her family entered the Salt Lake Valley on 6 November, 1856 and were given food and shelter there. What an incredible testimony and determination Ann must have had to endure those four terrible months pushing a handcart. Reading her story makes me ask myself, What am I doing with my life? What is expected of me? My challenges aren't anything like Ann's, but I'm grateful for her example. If the Lord could help her endure what she did, he can surely help me with my hardships, however big or small.

A more lighthearded story is that of the ancestors who owned the cabin. I'm descended from the son, William Garner, Jr. His sister, Mary, had curly red hair that hung down her back in ringlets. As her family crossed the prairie to Utah, she caught the attention of an Indian chief who offered her parents "many ponies" if they would give her to him for a wife. Her parents, of course, refused, but her was determined and followed their wagon for several days. They never heard of him again until four years later they received a knock on their door in Slaterville, Utah. It was the same Indian chief! And he still wanted Mary for his bride. It took three days to convince him that he couldn't have Mary. Imagine her relief when he finally left for good! She must have had an incredible head of hair to motivate this man to follow her so far!

My favorite experience in Nauvoo was at the Old Nauvoo Cemetery. On Sunday morning, before attending church, we visited the cemetery and found the grave marker where two of Tamer's young children, Sarah Elizabeth Washburn and John E. Washburn, are resting. Their mother, Tamer Washburn, related the following vision which she had prior to the children's deaths:

She thought she went to heaven. Everything was beautiful beyond description. Such beauty and order prevailed everywhere. She came to a beautiful park where children were playing. Their play was supervised by very fine, intelligent women. Tamer then came to a small group and found her own two children among them, very happy and contented. The beautiful lady who had charge of the group said to her, "Do not grieve for your children, it is your privilege beforehand to see their joy and happiness here, and all the conditions which will surround them so that you will not mourn for them. " In a few weeks, the two children died. Tamer said that when they died, she did not shed a tear because the vision she had had was continually before her mind.




Our visit to Nauvoo really helped put life, death, and our eternal purpose in perspective. I get that same renewal of perspective every time I attend the temple. I'm so grateful for my membership in this incredible church and for my pioneer heritage.

So if you had been a pioneer, what would have been YOUR story? If you had a cause as dear to your heart as did the people of Nauvoo, would you leave everything behind to follow it? I sure hope I would.



                               
   

Monday, March 28, 2016

Cute Kate

Some fun Kate phrases that I have been needing to write down...

"Wook at me!" (if she is doing something cool or tricky)
"Ta-da!"
"Happy you-you a cake!" (Happy birthday song that we sing over cake) :)
"Mommy help!" (She says this when she wants me to help her--not anyone else. She say this a lot!)
"Margles" (Kate's word for marbles. She loves playing with and sorting marbles. Luckly she doesn't ever put them in her mouth.)
"Brown bear, Brown bear, wook-a-mug-a-me!" (Her version of brown bear, brown bear, what do you see. It's kind of garbled, but she can say it!)
"More, please!" (Kate always says please when asking for more food. Pretty cool!)
A couple of weeks ago during Sacrament Meeting, Kate drank her cup of water and loudly announced, "Tasty. Very tasty!" That got a lot of grins from the families around us.

Kate loves playing with her siblings, especially Tommy. They are buddies during the day when Jared and Allison are at school. I often hear Kate urging Tommy with, "C'mon, Tommy! Follow me, Tommy!"
Kate also loves music. She has a good sense of rhythm and enjoys playing her toddler instruments while listening to music, dancing, and running wildly around the house if the music is dramatic (as with the kids' latest favorite song--Greig's "In the Hall of the Mountain King")



Thursday, November 12, 2015

Kate Turns Two!

Today our Sweet Baby Kate is no longer a baby. She is two! We will be celebrating with a dinner of hot dogs and cantaloupe, followed by a Blues Clues cake and presents. Can't beat that!

Here are some things we love about Kate:
  • Kate has an ever-happy disposition. She loves to smile and laugh!
  • Kate is our family clown. She likes to act silly and gets excited if her brothers and sister join in the fun.
  • Kate is so good at sleeping and taking naps. She loves to cuddle up with her pink and white blankies, and a plethora of animal friends. She calls most animals by the sound they make: duck=quack, quack; sheep=ba, ba; horse=neigh, neigh; rabbit=hop, hop. Dogs are "puppy" and she likes sleeping with her little pink puppy (and any other puppy she can find.) 
  • Right now Kate is known in our house as the animal swiper. She is always scouting for stuffed animals to adopt and take into her crib (like Jared's rabbit and puppy, Allison's rabbit Sam, etc.)
  • When Kate finishes a task she often finishes with an enthusiastic, "Ta-Da!"
  • Lately when someone suggests something that Kate thinks is a little ridiculous, she will respond with a shake of her head and, in her best mommy tone of voice, "Nooooooo." (This is always her reaction when we remind her that there is a baby in Mommy's tummy) :)
  • Kate loves Blues Clues lately. She calls it "Blue Puppy!"
  • Kate is a music girl. Play her some music with a good beat, and she will rock out.
  • Kate's favorite activity is biking on the driveway. She scoots along on our Plasma Car (she has to wear a designated pair of old shoes since her feet drag and wear away the toe). Luckily Grandma and Grandpa Washburn are getting her a new bike for her birthday!
  •  Kate does NOT like riding in the car or going shopping. She is quick to let out her screams of disapproval... and equally quick to start giggling again once Mommy pulls a silly face at her. (Yes, she is a bit of a faker sometimes!)
  • Kate likes sucking on hair, like little Jared did (weird, I know!) She calls it "bleh," because that's what we say when she is sucking on one. When she has lost a hair that she had been secretly stashing, she'll look around her in puzzlement, shrug her shoulders, and say, "Bleh go? Bleh go?" (Where'd the bleh go?)
  • Our nickname for Kate: Sweet Pea
  • For her birthday, she enjoyed playing "Blues Clues" with the family to figure out what we would be doing next (opening presents). She loves her new bouncie horse, scooter bike, and BIG stuffed bear. Thanks everyone for your birthday wishes and for helping her feel special on her birthday!



Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Tommy Turns Four!

Today is Tommy's birthday. He woke up to the best present ever--4 inches of snow! School had a 2-hour delay, so he got to play dominoes with Allison AND build a snow fort with Jared. All before the early hour of 8am!

Tommy is a cheerful, smiley, independent child with big ideas. His favorite activities are coloring, cutting, and taping things (once I found a nursery handout thoroughly taped to his bedroom door, using about 30 3-inch pieces of tape).

Tommy likes playing the piano and singing. He is good at reading and can sound out most any phonetic word. Several times I have caught him in his bedroom with his early reader books, carefully reading the books out loud to himself. It looks like we have another little reader in the making!

Tommy also LOVES Puppy and all his other stuffed dogs. He sometimes sleeps with 5 or more of them in his bed. Puppy is his favorite, though, and he always woofs at us when Tommy first wakes up in the morning (Puppy's woofs and whines is how Tommy communicates with us when he is feeling sleepy).

When the weather is warm, Tommy loves to bike outside. He also enjoys our big sandbox. His best friend is Alex Switzer, who we swap playdates with every Wednesday. Tommy and Alex just moved up into Junior Primary to join the Sunbeam class! Tommy is the oldest sunbeam, and we got to sing Happy Birthday to him during his first official Sunday in Primary. He is giving a Primary talk in two weeks, as well. Tommy is getting to be so big!

Tommy's dimpled grin and smiling eyes always makes my day. He is so fun to have at home, and he loves playing with his baby sister, Kate. Happy Birthday, Tommy. You are a wonderful part of our family!






Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Kate is 1 year old!

Last Tuesday our sweet Baby Kate turned one! It has been a wonderful year watching her learn and grow. Here are some fun things she is doing:

  • She is a fast crawler! She started rolling at 3 months old, and hasn't stopped moving since.
  • She loves it when you chase her She makes growling noises while crawling away as fast as she can. Before she could crawl, she got a kick out of Mom holding her and "chasing" Jared around the house. Jared is a fun big brother!
  • She is now pulling to a stand and will probably learn to walk before long.
  • Kate loves music. Her favorite CD is Treblemakers folk songs. The first song is "Mama Lama," so she often requests, "Mama! Mama!" when we are near the CD player. When the music comes on, a grin spreads across her face and she starts bouncing to the beat.
  • Kate loves the piano too, and tries to play some notes while her siblings are practicing.
  • If you ask, "What sound does a doggie make?" Kate will pant like a dog.
  • Kate's favorite trick is "How big is Kate? SO big!" (She raises both arms in the air)
  • Kate loves peek-a-boo and can do it herself.
  • Kate's least favorite things is getting dressed. She used to cry and howl every night when we put her in pajamas. She doesn't scream quite as much now, so she's getting better.
  • So, as you might imagine, one of Kate's favorite things is being bare! Her spunk and enthusiasm seem to double whenever we let her crawl around the house in only a diaper. 
  • Probably Kate's VERY favorite thing is her siblings. She wakes up from her afternoon nap practically bouncing and has a big grin on as we go downstairs to greet Jared and Allison, who have just arrived home from school. During the day Kate and Tommy enjoy playing together. Sometimes when Kate is napping, Tommy will ask me, "Is her nap over yet? Can I get her out?"
  • Kate has many admirers! Her #1 local fans (besides her family) are Brandt and Lindsay Adams, a couple in our ward who take care of her during the 2nd and 3rd hours of church while Adam and I serve in the Primary. Lindsay is the only person who can get Kate to sleep during church (not even Mom can do it!).  We are very grateful for the Adams!
  • Kate also makes new friends during piano time. Four days a week after school I teach an hour of piano lessons, during which she gets to play in the basement with toys and the piano families, and usually ends up charming all of our guests. 
  • Kate loves swinging at the park and getting pushed around on her toddler bike on our driveway. She also does really well in the sandbox (and only samples a bit of sand every once in a while) :)
  • On Halloween Kate finally got her first tooth! (top right) her second tooth emerged right next to the first, just a day or two ago. 
  • Kate's first word was "Uh-oh!" She says it whenever she drops something. She has also learned to imitate these words: Bye-bye, hi, Mamma, Dadda, more
  • Kate is cute, happy, and very social. We love this little girl!


Thursday, January 30, 2014

January 30

Allison came downstairs this morning fully dressed, and announced that she had brushed her hair and made her bed and was ready for breakfast. You go, girl!



Pulled out the three-month clothes today. Look at these cute new outfits--all from friends! A lot of people love you, Kate.


Starfall with Tommy



But the biggest adventure of the day was getting new carpet!!



 It has been a month and three days since our sewer backup, and our basement is now finally restored! I LOVE our basement, and the kids do too! Counting our blessings today...

 Run, kids, run!



Wednesday, January 29, 2014

My Glad Game

Last Monday, as part of my Family Home Evening lesson, our family started a "Glad Jar." We had been having problems lately with too much complaining from the kids (one kid in particular, but we won't name names). So for FHE I gave a lesson about having a positive attitude. I showed the "glad game" clip from Polyanna and challenged our family to start playing the game. Whenever something bad happens (which is quite frequent--between daily chores, Jared's daily bus ride, and the inevitable dinner time when most meals are met with Ewwww's), if the victim can think of something to be glad about in the situation, he or she gets to add a puff ball to our "Glad Jar." And so far, it seems to be working!

Just this morning, I realized that I need my own version of the Glad Game. With four young kids, a houseful of housework, a demanding church calling, and other responsibilities, it is easy to become discouraged at all I'm NOT able to accomplish.

So my new goal is to focus on the little things worth celebrating in my life. I am so blessed to live in this city; have the friends and neighbors that I do; have a great church family; a wonderful husband; four sweet, healthy children; a beautiful home; and the chance to stay at home each day and enjoy it all.

So forget the mountains of dirty laundry, the sinkfull of dirty dishes, and the living room cluttered with toys. Today is a day worth celebrating.


I had an epic medieval battle with Tommy and Allison.







I found Adam's daily note to me. What a thoughtful husband!



Celebrating a clutter-free upstairs hallway!



Clean sheets on TWO beds.



We'll see what tomorrow brings. :)


Monday, October 14, 2013

What I Learned in Primary

"My challenge to you," the bishop smiled, pointing toward the forty primary children in front of him, "Is to share something you learned today in Primary with one of your friends."

I love when the bishop visits our Primary. He towers over the children and wins them over with his genuine smile and his simple testimony. (And it's always interesting to hear the remarks from his nine-year-old daughter in Senior Primary; she is a sweet girl and quite the character!) After his message, I got up to teach the lesson, and then Renee Priddis stood to lead the children in Singing Time.

After I sat down from teaching, I found I was still thinking about the Bishop's invitation--to share something we learned in Primary with one of our friends. If he had asked the kids to do it, well, I should probably do it too.

So here is what I learned. I learned that all of us--even, and perhaps especially, children--have the capacity to influence others for good. Their attitudes and actions can make a big difference in the lives of their siblings, parents, friends, and neighbors. A scripture I had studied for my lesson, and which the Bishop had shared in his message, is 1 Timothy 4:12: "Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity" (emphasis added).

I remember being encouraged by this scripture six years ago, when I was called to be Young Womens president in our Illinois ward. I was just 22 years old--closer in age to some of the young women than than I was to their parents! This scripture reminded me that age didn't really matter. I could contribute my service and skills and testimony regardless of my age or experience. "Behold, the Lord requireth the heart and a willing mind" (Doctrine and Covenants 64:34). That's all he asks, and I found that when I worked diligently and prayed sincerely, He made up the rest.

I'm continuing to appreciate this scripture now that I am a new Primary president. I may not have a lot of prior experience working in Primary, but I love the children and I love my Heavenly Father. I am continually amazed at the wisdom and understanding of these children. During my lesson, I asked if any of them could share a time when they had served someone else, or when they had shared their testimony with a friend. A dozen children responded, each telling a story of how they had helped a friend or a classmate or a sibling. These children know who they are, why they are here, and where they are going. Most adults in our world today don't have half the direction and confidence that my young Primary children have. It is inspiring to me, and I am so grateful for the Restored gospel of Jesus Christ in my own life. I too know who I am and what Heavenly Father's plan is for me. I hope that I can always be an example of the believers--"in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity."



Friday, August 2, 2013

Money & Munchkins

"Mom, do we live in a mansion?"
I glance in the rear view mirror and see Jared looking inquisitively back at me from the rear of the van. You never know what questions you're going to get with a six-year-old. We're on our way home from the park; what prompted that question? Probably some of the homes we passed on 116th. 
"No, Jared. Mansions are really big, fancy houses." 
There's a moment of silence in the back seat.
"Well I bet the people who live in mansions are actually poor. "
"Why do you think that?"
"Because once they spend all their money on their big house, they don't have any left." 

I start to correct him, to tell him that usually people who buy mansions have enough financial resources that they have plenty of money left over after making their mortgage payment. But as I thought more about it, I realized that Jared had a point: Just because someone spends money--even a lot of money--doesn't necessarily mean they have made a wise financial decision. There will always be more ways to spend than we have resources. Or, as Adam says, "There will always be people who are willing to take your money--ALL of your money." 

George Washington and Thomas Jefferson are examples of people who on the outside appeared to be well-off but who actually struggled to achieve financial stability throughout their lives. When Washington became president, he felt (understandably) an obligation to host, and host in style, important visitors at his Mt Vernon home (including some 2,000 important guests, according to Wikipedia). Thomas Jefferson, born into a wealthy slave-owning family, enjoyed a life of plantation-style luxury. But by his death in 1826, he was deeply in debt. Wikipedia recounts an example of Jefferson's spending habits that had led him into debt in the first place: "By 1815, Jefferson's library included 6,487 books, which he sold to the Library of Congress for $23,950 to replace the smaller collection destroyed in the War of 1812. He intended to pay off some of his large debt, but immediately started buying more books." Twenty-three grand is a lot of money now, and it was a LOT of money then. But "enough" really depends on how you use it. (Although I have to say that of all the items to squander your assets on, books are a pretty good choice.)

I have a friend from high school who grew up in a "mansion." The house was gorgeous, situated on acres of lovely grounds, complete with water fountains and walk ways. When I spoke with her at our ten-year reunion this summer, she told me that her father had retired several years ago, but that since then her parents had some investments go wrong because of some dishonest people. They are now living in a condo a few miles from their original home, and her father had gone back to work. That news came as a shock to me. Even when we're doing our best, bad things can happen. This is a wonderful family, and I'm sure they have adjusted. But what a hard change to go through. It's good to remember that money can't buy happiness.

Adam and I have been talking lately about how we can teach our own children the importance of financial responsibility. Although Jared (6) and Allison (4) are still very young, we would like to help them learn good money habits: the willingness to earn, the discipline to save, and the generosity to give money to others in need. I believe that those three financial facets are key to living a happy and stable financial life. But how do you teach them to your kids?

We haven't had much experience teaching finances yet, with the exception of one experience. Last year when we moved from Illinois to Indiana, Jared was enamored with the idea of having a Power Wheels motorized car. I peeked at the price tag on one at the store and nearly fell over. Over $200! So I bought him an oversize glass jar and told him that if he wanted a Power Wheels, he could do jobs to earn the money himself. Over the next year Jared did jobs around the house and yard to earn money for his "saving jar." I soon found him a smaller container to hold his tithing. (Members of my Church pay 10% of our income to the church. The money funds the building of meeting houses, temples--like the one being built on 116th and Springmill Rd in Carmel--missionary work, education, etc.) Teaching children the concept of paying tithing is actually a great way to begin to teach financial responsibility. It's also a good reminder to Mom and Dad that we have someone else to thank for the blessings we have, and a responsibility to share what we've been given with others.

One year after establishing the "saving jar," Jared had earned about $50 (and let me tell you, that represents a lot of job-inventing effort on Mom and Dad's parts!). Jared was about to turn six--really too big for a Power Wheels (at least the type in his price range), so Adam convinced him to set his sites on a FlashRider 360. For a birthday gift, we made up the rest of the money needed for the bike, and Adam took him to Target to make his purchase. Jared laid down all of his bills on the bright-red counter in exchange for his new bike. I think it was a good experience for him overall. Hopefully he's learned a little bit about the value of money and how to earn it (and I've learned that it can take a 6-year-old an entire year to earn just $50!)

We also want our kids to learn to save some of their money for bigger future expenses, like college and a mission. If we can find a time when the bank is open and Adam is home (which may be difficult), he'd like to take Jared and Allison to set up their own account where they can contribute some of their money to savings. I thought maybe we could make a little chart for each of them to help them keep track of how much is in their account (so they don't feel like they're tossing half their earnings into a black hole that they'll never visit again until they're 21). We're still toying with how to go about the bank idea...

Any ideas here? How have you taught your children financial responsibility? How have you learned it yourself--either from your own parents or from personal experience? 




Monday, July 29, 2013

The Sandbox

                                          

I grew up with a sandbox in my back yard. Not just any sandbox--a BIG sandbox. In our house in Salt Lake, my mom convinced my dad to build a 12x8-foot sandbox behind our back patio. I remember making mud pies with my twin sister and little brother. We would leave our sand cakes out to dry in the sun and "feast" on them the next day. We dug tunnels in the sand and holes deep enough to stand in up to our knees, and in the hot summer months we brought in the hose and made rivers and dams. When our family moved to Provo, my mom wanted another sandbox since our old one had gotten so much use. We kids helped her dig it, and my dad made the wooden edging (he said he was done digging after putting in our last sandbox). I remember our "grand opening" celebration. We had the neighbor kids over, cut a ribbon, ate Popsicles, and "flooded the sandbox." 18 years and eight kids later, my parents still have that sandbox. And now the grandkids play in it.

Last July marked the end of our own family's apartment days. After 7 years of living in small rented space, we finally had a home of our own--complete with back yard! Remembering my childhood spent in a sandbox, I soon scouted out a great place where our own sandbox could go: in the back yard along the fence, just beyond the kitchen window. I had visions of peacefully cooking dinner while monitoring the kids' sandbox play from that window. It would be perfect! Now I just needed someone to dig that hold for me...

Adam turned out to be that hole digger. It took some convincing, but once he realized that the sandbox was really important to me, he took up his shovel, chopped down a scraggly pine tree that was in the way, removed sod, and dug a 12x8x2-foot hole. Adam is the BEST! That was a LOT of dirt to dig out! We had several rainstorms during his week of digging, but he didn't let that slow him down. He cyphened out the mudhole each evening and dug until the job was finished. He also had to reroute a sprinkler pipe that extended into the sandbox area. Once the hole was dug, we purchased pressure-treated beams to serve as the edge around the sandbox. Adam did a nice job of fitting them together and using paving stones to make them level (since our yard slopes).

It would have cost over $300 to dispose of the extra dirt ourselves. Fortunately, we were able to use the wonders of Craigslist to get rid of our sod (The sod went really fast. Two ladies came and took most of it away. Adam and our neighbor Dan helped them load the sod into the back of their minivan and white Lexus. Not sure how that went over with the husband who owned the white Lexux...) Our dirt didn't go nearly as fast as the sod. But eventually someone contacted us who needed dirt to fill a landscaping pond in his yard, and he took it all. It took him three trips with his pickup truck, and then he came back the next day with his father-in-law, a flatbed trailer, and a bobcat to finish the job. It still took them all day to finish loading and hauling all the dirt that Adam had dug out by hand.

Next came the sand. I priced out play sand from Home Depot and figured it would run around $600-700 to fill our two-foot-deep sandbox! Pricey! So I tried calling local gravel companies. Tommy and I visited one that said they had sand we could use, but when they brought a sample over for me to feel, it was riddled with large pea gravel and left my hand muddy after touching it. After some more phone calls I finally found Beaver Gravel Co. in Noblesville, which sells #23 sand. Tommy and I made a visit to their impressive gravel processing site, and felt the sand. It was perfect! A few days later a large dump truck deposited 7 tones of #23 sand at the top of our driveway--for only $150.

The sand was a LOT easier to shovel into the sandbox than clay was to shovel out of the sandbox. Our church's missionaries and my sister who happened to be visiting at the time all helped us put the sand in the hole.

See below for a picture of our finished sandbox! Now both my kids and the neighbor kids go outside to play in it every day. I make dinner in a quiet kitchen and I have a perfect view of the sandbox kids from the window. Thank you, Adam, for making my dream come true!




                               Adam first took out our "Charlie Brown Tree" (as the tree evaluator called it)


                                     Removed all the sod with the help of our neighbors, the Perduns


                                      My sister Sarah and the kiddos atop the mountain of sand!


                                              Putting down landscape fabric at the bottom





                                                                      Dad's big helper


                               The Missionaries came to help. They sure were fast at moving that sand!


                                 Leveling off our border. Look at those 12-foot logs! (Thanks, Menards)


                                     
                                           All finished! Time for some summer fun in the sand!

Thursday, May 23, 2013

14 Piano Students

If you enter my home on a Thursday or Friday after school, you will probably hear two things:

1. Piano music (or scales or hanons or fallboard tapping or a metronome ticking)
2. Muffled thumping, yelping, and other unidentifiable noises

The first sound can be attributed to any one of my fourteen piano students since Thursdays and Fridays are piano lesson days. Despite what you may be thinking, the second sound does not emanate from my coat closet where I have locked up bad students for practicing less than five days a week. Rather, it echoes up from the basement where my three kids and the siblings of the student at hand are all playing together. Most of the families I teach for have more than one student taking lessons from me. And they have younger siblings who have to wait around for them to finish their lessons. So I offer parents a discount if they watch my kids--along with their own--in the basement during lesson times. They pay less, my kids get to play with friends, and I get to teach uninterrupted. It works out pretty well for everyone.

I started teaching lessons here in Carmel, IN, last September. Within a few months my teaching schedule filled up and I had to start saying no to some interested students. I'm glad people in Carmel appreciate music and the arts and want their children to participate as well. Adam says that if he ever loses his job, he'll start teaching piano full-time while he looks for a new job. We laugh about it, but I'm pretty sure that's really his plan.

I like teaching because it gives me a chance to use my music skills to help others learn the gift of music. I enjoy the challenge of trying to teach to each student's needs. That's an ever-moving target, and I'm not perfect at it, but I'm getting better.

I started teaching piano lessons when I was fourteen years old. I charged $5 per weekly, half-hour lesson, and I would teach in the student's home. Over the course of high school I taught a handful of ward and neighbor kids who were just starting out on the piano. It was a great way to break into teaching. I got tips from my own piano teacher, and slowly I learned through experience what works and what doesn't (and just when I thought I had it figured out, I'd get a new student with a new personality and I'd have to start from scratch). I stopped teaching once I got engaged to Adam, and I didn't start again until two or three years later, when a mom in our Champaign, IL, ward asked me if I would teach her eight-year-old daughter. I taught about nine students over the course of our four years in Champaign, and then we moved to Carmel. Now we have a real house, a piano room, and a basement. Teaching here is much easier than trying to teach in our two-bedroom townhome.

A few weeks ago we had our first piano recital. Here is a picture of the kids. Aren't they cute?


The week before the recital, we had a practice recital at my house, pizza party, and a trip to Chuck E. Cheese to reward the students who made it into the "100 Point Club" (my twelve-year-old students opted for a music store gift certificate instead of Chuck E. Cheese, as you might imagine). It was a tiring evening, but a lot of fun.

And here's Jared and Allison playing in the recital. It was Allison's first. Notice how she pauses in the middle of her last song to look over and smile at her grandpa who was watching from the audience.


Friday, November 9, 2012

Allison Le Fashionista

Writing is supposed to be therapeutic, so I'll give it a try. We have recently discovered that Allison is VERY opinionated about fashion and which clothes she will and will not wear (and at which times of the day she will wear them, and in what combinations, all depending on the phases of the moon and maybe her hair day too. Or something cryptic like that). The other day she refused to wear jeans under her knee-length sweater. Somehow she knew leggings were more appropriate. We don't watch TV and I don't subscribe to any fashion magazines; and I'm certainly not a prime fashion example for her to learn from. So how she knew this fashion fact is beyond me.

Halloween night was another example of Allison's passion for fashion. She nearly didn't go trick-or-treating because she was morally opposed to wearing pants under her princess costume. "It's very cold outside," we reasoned with her. "You need to wear some pants." She whimpered  She cried. She wailed. She screamed! "These pants BOTHER me, Dad!" she cried, "There is a ruffle on the bottom of them and a ruffle on the dress, and that's TOO MANY RUFFLES!" But even when we presented her with a less-ruffly option, she was unhappy. No, that's an understatement. She was totally and utterly miserable. You might think this was just a big power struggle, but I could tell it wasn't as much about power for her as it was about having her outfit look and feel right. She wouldn't even wear tights as an alternative! For Allison, it was go bear-legged or don't go at all. I took the boys out to the block chili and costume party and left Adam with Allison. As we walked away, I suddenly remembered an incident at Church two Sundays prior. Allison wanted to wear some new Sunday shoes I had bought her (on clearance, for growing into). But they "bothered her" because they were too big. She threw such a fit in the parking lot that I let her go barefoot to church. It seemed like the only peaceable option. And now, on Halloween night, another clothing issue was barring the way. I crossed my fingers and wished Adam luck as we walked across our yard to the neighbor's house.

Ten minutes later, Adam and Allison joined us. Adam looked a little chagrined, but Allison was as cheerful as could be, prancing around in her princess costume... and wearing no pants. She was cold all evening, but stuck it out pretty well. And she was MUCH happier than she would have been wearing *bumpy old pants* under her pretty costume. Needless to say, Halloween night was a wakeup call for me and Adam. We then knew satisfying Allison le fashionista would be an ongoing challenge.

Which leads me into my main story. This morning we had some errands to run. I knew I needed to get an early start to dressing Allison if we wanted to get out of the house before 10:00. It's not easy to motivate her to get dressed, let alone find an outfit she will be satisfied with. (Jared and Allison are polar opposites in the morning: Jared bounds into our room at 6am, fully dressed and bursting with happy energy, and Allison crawls out of her bed, sleepy-eyed and with no intention of doing much beyond lounging on her bedroom floor in pajamas for an hour or so. I must admit, she is pretty cute in her pajamas.)

I suggested overalls and a long-sleeved shirt. She didn't like the shirt. So I suggested she pick a new one. She ended up wandered downstairs with Purple Blankie before finishing the task, so I helped her back up the stairs and we looked at some shirts together. She picked tie-dyed, short-sleeved top. But, she told me, she needed a different pair of pants. We went back downstairs and got a tan pair out of the dryer. It's too wet, she told me (maybe it was a little damp, or maybe it just felt cold. I'm guessing it was the latter). We finally found a winner, and she settled down to have breakfast.

Cheerios was the cereal of choice this morning, but unfortunately Mom poured her a bowl that was too small (probably because Mom noticed that she didn't finish her cereal yesterday morning). So that turned into a big deal. I finally poured more cereal on top and added milk, but by then the cereal underneath was soggy! I quickly realized that Allison was not going to eat a bite of half-soggy cereal, so I dumped it all down the drain and we started anew with a big bowl of fresh Cheerios. Okay. Problem solved.  I start working on Tommy's breakfast, and for about two and half minutes there is peace and quiet...

Until I hear, SPLASH--WAAAAAH!

I whip around. Allison has spilled her entire bowl of Cheerios right into her lap. And she is wailing. I grab a rag and start wiping her up. I force some reassuring words out of my mouth (although I wasn't feeling very patient right then). As I start soaking the milk out from under the baseboards, I ask her to go upstairs and change her clothes (yeah, right). Five minutes later, the milk was cleaned up and Allison had taken off her wet clothes (very good!). She was now down to underwear--and we were back to square one.

But don't worry, this story has a happy ending. Allison did end up finding some dry clothes (and putting them on, even thought the pants "bothered her"). And we even made it out for our errands (Allison in socks and no jacket or coat--the socks were bunching up in her shoes and bothering her, and coats always bother her in the car. She doesn't like the way they "puff up" under the car seat straps).

Luckily, it was a relatively warm November morning. And, also luckily, I had brought the double-stroller so her pink socks didn't have to get dirty at the store.

So now you've heard my stories. I hope they've given you a chuckle or two. Now can you give me some advice??



                                                               
                                                  Cute and sweet (and just a little opinionated),
                                                    Allison poses in her Snow White costume

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Carmel, IN

From my last posts, you'd think we still lived in Fishers and that Tommy had just turned 18 months. Let me update...

We now live in a house in Carmel, Indiana (just north of Indianapolis). We are loving all the space and home perks like a garage, dishwasher, a basement, and a back yard. We have nice neighbors and lots of neighbor kids to play with.


Jared started Kindergarten this fall! He has adjusted to the long school day (mostly), and is now enjoying his class. I've been surprised by how advanced the kindergarten curriculum seems compared to what I imagine my kindergarten experience was. In writing time, Jared is learning to "draft out" his story first with pictures, then write a first draft, then revise it, and finally present the finished piece out loud to his classmates. He is also learning how to draw "real" people (no stick figures; guess I need to go back to kindergarten to improve my own sketches!). He rides the bus to school, and the stop is right on our driveway, which is nice. We even put out a little bench for the "bus stop kids" to sit on since everyone congregates in front of our house.

                                                     
                                                        Jared's first day of Kindergarten

Our kindergarten crew, waiting at the bus stop together

Mrs. Mann's Kindergarten Class 2012

Allison isn't in preschool this year, so we've been trying out some activities in the community. She just finished her first dance class last week. "Dance Games" turned out to be a lot of fun. She enjoyed getting dressed up in her dance outfit every Tuesday morning and having fun with her little dance friends. I think we'll try some ballet and tap next year.


 Tommy is getting quick on his feet--it's hard to keep up with him! He loves doing "bikes" in the driveway, driving toy cars, playing with Allison while Jared is at school, and watching for big trucks and construction equipment while we're driving in the car. Several weeks ago a neighbor had Jared and Allison over to play so I could do a "Mommy date" with Tommy. We packed a folding chair and fruit snacks, set up camp across the street from a large construction site across town, and spent the next 45 minutes oohing and aahing over the machines at work.

                                                           Watching the construction


                           At a local apple orchard (no apples, though. The drought was too severe)


Adam has been keeping busy doing science at Eli Lilly. I've enjoyed having him home all day every Saturday--even if our weekends do seem to get taken up with chores like stripping old wallpaper, installing sinks, and--most recently--clearing away a massive limb that split off of our big Bradford Pear tree during a storm. We are now well-stocked with firewood:


I've enjoyed getting my piano teaching going again. I have five students right now, and I may be picking up four more in the next couple of months. It's a fun thing to do on the side of my favorite job--being a mom.